So I've been single for almost a solid three months now, the 14th will be the official three month day, that's right the 14th because my ex was shitty enough that we ended it on Valentines Day. I'm a relatively (truthfully insanely) busy person so meeting people isn't exactly what'd I'd call easy, this has resulted in me turning my tinder back on...
All I want is to meet my Ben Wyatt, Leslie Knope is my spirit animal obviously. My tinder profile even says it, as a single lady I need to make sure its clear what I'm looking for. Don't get me wrong I obviously love the Andy Dwyer's and Chris Traeger's of the world but that's just not what I'm looking for.
Seriously though, as my profile to the left shows Ben and Leslie are my dream relationship. Plus I figure most people love Parks and Recs, it's a good conversation starter, jokes on me no one starts conversations on this thing.
I had tinder before my last relationship but somewhere in the process of nine months I forgot that it was originally created for hook ups, not my style, so about two weeks in I had to make sure I added that to my profile as well, because no sorry guys I am not "DTF."
Anyways here are the lessons/confessions I have learned from turning my tinder back on:
Seriously though, as my profile to the left shows Ben and Leslie are my dream relationship. Plus I figure most people love Parks and Recs, it's a good conversation starter, jokes on me no one starts conversations on this thing.
I had tinder before my last relationship but somewhere in the process of nine months I forgot that it was originally created for hook ups, not my style, so about two weeks in I had to make sure I added that to my profile as well, because no sorry guys I am not "DTF."
Anyways here are the lessons/confessions I have learned from turning my tinder back on:
- DON'T like people you know unless you are good in awkward situations and/or have real feelings and think they may have them back. The other day a cute guy who I talk to everyday at work popped in mine so I thought "Oh huh, Nick's so cute, I wonder if he swiped left to me." Funny thing is, he did. Now it's cloud in the air everyday and neither of us bring it up.
On a side note to that though, months before I dated my ex I ended up matching with a guy who had just moved to Michigan for a job at my company, he has now became one of my best friends and we joke about matching up all the time. - Why do people use all group pictures in their profile? AND ALL THE GROUP PICTURES HAVE REPEATS OF THE SAME PEOPLE. There's always one really attractive person but you never know if it's him or the one you're really hoping its not.
To continue that, why don't people write in their profile? Even if I was just trying to hook up with someone I'd still want to know something about you. - I don't understand the concept of not messaging people back or just not messaging them at all...you matched with me, which means you liked something about me, sooo...
One of my other favorites is them messaging you back like 2 weeks later...what the hell, seriously dude. When I first turned it on I wanted the whole men are gentlemen and should pursure the woman thing, they don't. So I took matters into my own hands, messaged them first, still nothing.
This guy below though has been my personal favorite, was 31 and had the nerve to match with me to ask if my best friend was single...
My mind was blown, like obviously I find you attractive considering I matched with you and you're going to be rude enough to ask me that. Some people, I tell ya.
Ending this rant after this, even though I can promise I'll have more to vent about and good stories. I just feel really weird about the couples on tinder who are looking for someone to have fun with. I guess good for them, doing their thing, but it just plain weirds me out.
-Arielle
-Arielle